“We gain strength, and
courage, and confidence by each experience in which we really stop to
look fear in the face... we must do that which we think we cannot.” Eleanor Roosevelt
Dear Eleanor
My girlfriend doesn't seem to have time for me. Is our relatiionship over? Anna
Dear Anna,
Could be yes, could be no. Ask her.
Dear Eleanor
I have lost my job and am about to lose my house. What can I do?
John
Dear John
First, pray, meditate, spend time in nature - call on the power of the universe to help you.
Second, focus on eliminating all negative thinking about yourself, your situation, your life. You have done the best you can to this moment and you have the power to change the situation, but only if you let go of negativity and the past. Self-monitor your thoughts and as you think of something negative, replace it with something positive.
Third, consider the possibility that this situation was designed to help you learn and grow in some way. Let go of the past and accept that you are in this situation. What can you learn from this?
Fourth, how have you neglected yourself? Take one step in the other direction.
Fifth, what is one positive thing you can do about the situation. Do that.
Sixth, ask for help/guidance from people/resources you trust.
Seven, is there someone you can help (not enable, but help - there is a difference)? Help them.
Dear Eleanor
My boyfriend is pressuring me to have unprotected sex. Should I?
Tim
Dear Tim
Absolutely not. Get a new boyfriend.
Dear Eleanor
My girlfriend doesn't seem to have time for me. Is our relatiionship over? Anna
Dear Anna,
Could be yes, could be no. Ask her.
Dear Eleanor
I have lost my job and am about to lose my house. What can I do?
John
Dear John
First, pray, meditate, spend time in nature - call on the power of the universe to help you.
Second, focus on eliminating all negative thinking about yourself, your situation, your life. You have done the best you can to this moment and you have the power to change the situation, but only if you let go of negativity and the past. Self-monitor your thoughts and as you think of something negative, replace it with something positive.
Third, consider the possibility that this situation was designed to help you learn and grow in some way. Let go of the past and accept that you are in this situation. What can you learn from this?
Fourth, how have you neglected yourself? Take one step in the other direction.
Fifth, what is one positive thing you can do about the situation. Do that.
Sixth, ask for help/guidance from people/resources you trust.
Seven, is there someone you can help (not enable, but help - there is a difference)? Help them.
Dear Eleanor
My boyfriend is pressuring me to have unprotected sex. Should I?
Tim
Dear Tim
Absolutely not. Get a new boyfriend.
Dear Eleanor
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Beautiful young people are accidents of nature, but beautiful old people are works of art.
Eleanor Roosevelt
It seems to me of great importance to teach children respect for life. Towards this end, experiments on living animals in classrooms should be stopped. To encourage cruelty in the name of science can only destroy the finer emotions of affection and sympathy, and breed an unfeeling callousness in the young towards suffering in all living creatures.
A woman is like a tea bag- you never know how strong she is until she gets in hot water.
Do what you feel in your heart to be right - for you'll be criticized anyway. You'll be damned if you do, and damned if you don't.
Friendship with oneself is all-important, because without it one cannot be friends with anyone else in the world.
Great minds discuss ideas; Average minds discuss events; Small minds discuss people.
I could not at any age be content to take my place in a corner by the fireside and simply look on.
I think that somehow, we learn who we really are and then live with that decision.
If someone betrays you once, it’s their fault; if they betray you twice, it’s your fault.
It is not fair to ask of others what you are unwilling to do yourself.
Justice cannot be for one side alone, but must be for both.
Learn from the mistakes of others. You can’t live long enough to make them all yourself.
Life was meant to be lived, and curiosity must be kept alive. One must never, for whatever reason, turn his back on life.
One thing life has taught me: if you are interested, you never have to look for new interests. They come to you. When you are genuinely interested in one thing, it will always lead to something else.
The purpose of life is to live it, to taste experience to the utmost, to reach out eagerly and without fear for newer and richer experience.
No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.
People grow through experience if they meet life honestly and courageously. This is how character is built.
LGBTUSA Resources
LGBT World Resources
Life Coach Search
LGBT Therapist Search1
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Jobs
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Will this be the Day
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Eleanor Quotes and Photo Gallery
Beautiful young people are accidents of nature, but beautiful old people are works of art.
Eleanor Roosevelt
It seems to me of great importance to teach children respect for life. Towards this end, experiments on living animals in classrooms should be stopped. To encourage cruelty in the name of science can only destroy the finer emotions of affection and sympathy, and breed an unfeeling callousness in the young towards suffering in all living creatures.
A woman is like a tea bag- you never know how strong she is until she gets in hot water.
Do what you feel in your heart to be right - for you'll be criticized anyway. You'll be damned if you do, and damned if you don't.
Friendship with oneself is all-important, because without it one cannot be friends with anyone else in the world.
Great minds discuss ideas; Average minds discuss events; Small minds discuss people.
I could not at any age be content to take my place in a corner by the fireside and simply look on.
I think that somehow, we learn who we really are and then live with that decision.
If someone betrays you once, it’s their fault; if they betray you twice, it’s your fault.
It is not fair to ask of others what you are unwilling to do yourself.
Justice cannot be for one side alone, but must be for both.
Learn from the mistakes of others. You can’t live long enough to make them all yourself.
Life was meant to be lived, and curiosity must be kept alive. One must never, for whatever reason, turn his back on life.
One thing life has taught me: if you are interested, you never have to look for new interests. They come to you. When you are genuinely interested in one thing, it will always lead to something else.
The purpose of life is to live it, to taste experience to the utmost, to reach out eagerly and without fear for newer and richer experience.
No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.
People grow through experience if they meet life honestly and courageously. This is how character is built.